Purpose of The Anonymous Donor Blog

The Anonymous Donor Blog exists to provide a meeting place for #HighAchievers to learn from one another. We promote three values:

1. Empathy – We’re real with one another about the difficulties we still face as High Achievers.
2. Encouragement – We provide hope to one another by sharing what’s working well so that others can learn from our experience.
3. Excitement – We spur each other on to even brighter days than what we’ve already experienced.

Who is Invited to Participate?

This blog is a community for #HighAchievers. You already know who you are. But just to clarify, this blog will benefit people the most who are experiencing difficulties in spite of being a high achiever.

Who is The Anonymous Donor?

At this point I choose to remain anonymous to the general public for my own reasons. You will see below that one of the most complicated problems for High Achievers is that we don’t talk about the weak spots in our lives. As such, most of us walk a very lonely path when it comes to issues that impact us deeply. You can check out my bio if you’d like a bit of background on my perspective.

Why was this blog started?

I started this blog because I am surrounded by people that look like they have it all together on the outside (#HighAchievers) but behind closed doors, they feel like parts of their lives are falling apart. I’ve been there! I went through a 5 year crucible period in my life that took me to the very edge of failure in my business, my marriage, my role as a dad, and everything else I was trying to accomplish. It wasn’t until I finally shared the pain I was facing that I was able to get the help I needed to move to the uncommon level of success I’ve now been able to achieve.

You are not alone.

Once I began to open up about the painful parts of my story I was amazed to learn that so many other High Achievers have experienced their own form of what feels like failure. Consider a few examples:

• One friend, a doctor, was cheating on his wife with his nurse but said, “I don’t even like my nurse. I have no clue why I let this happen. My wife is far more beautiful and kind than she is. It was so stupid to put my family at risk!”
• Another friend, an executive and mom said, “I feel like I’m dominating at work by my f-ing nanny is the one raising my kid. Why can’t I run my home as well as I run my division?”
• The youngest senior manager in his company confided, “I only have sex with my wife 2-3 times per year. This is killing me as a man. I don’t know how to fix it and I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about it.”
• His wife later responded, “I don’t like to have sex with him because he’s always looking at pornography and it makes me feel like I can never be beautiful for him. All I can think about when we do it is how I’m nothing compared to the women he is looking at online.”
• Another friend, a professional, said, “I’ve been so stupid. I nought all of the toys (cars, boat, vacation home, etc.) because I thought that’s what I was supposed to do now that I made partner. But now I’m so stressed about paying for everything that I never have time to enjoy any of it.

The stories I could tell are endless. I have many of my own stories because I’ve made so many mistakes along the way to success. The problem is that because High Achievers are High Achievers, it is far from natural for us to share our deepest struggles and fears. We put on a facade because we feel we must when inside we’re craving for someone who understands what we’re experiencing. Please know that you are not alone! You’ve found a place where you can be your truest self.

Why is the blog called The Anonymous Donor?

Because I had to come up with a name and all of the good ones were taken. However, in a lot of ways I do look at this blog as a way for me to give back to others as a donor of my time and my energy. I wouldn’t have experienced the success I have without the amazing people that have come alongside me throughout my life. I hope I can continue to play that same role for others in my daily life and through this blog.

My commitments to you:

• Your personal information will be held in strictest confidence.
• I will be real on this blog. I won’t hide the scars or the ongoing struggles.
• I care about you. Even if we’ve never met, I have a passion for other High Achievers who are experiencing difficulties because I know what it’s like to feel alone.

Contact the Editor:

I would love to hear your story. You can reach out to me at Editor@AnonymousDonor.org. I cannot promise an immediate response as I am often out of the country without email for extended periods. However, I will make my best effort to respond personally as I’m able to do so.